1
Our first step is a simple but necessary one: buy a medium sized notebook. Use it for the
written exercises in this programme, also to record your experiences and monitor your
progress. Date each entry you make.
Your notebook will become a good friend, teacher and confidant, so keep it near you,
consult it every day and update it regularly.
Commit yourself to spending some time on this programme every day. Just ten minutes
a day – reading, learning, thinking, doing etc – adds up to over 60 valuable hours of
confidence building activity a year from now. Twenty-five minutes a day builds up to one 152
hours in a year – that’s almost a week! Can you think of a better investment for your future?


2
What difference would it make to your life if you knew without any doubt that you could
achieve anything you set your heart on? If you like jot down a few comments in your
notebook.



3
Think about, and if you like write down, what confidence means to you. What do confident
people do that unconfident people do not? What would you do differently if you were
confident?
For example, perhaps you would find it easier to speak up for yourself, show your
emotions, meet new people, or take on more responsibility at work?


4
Write down three beliefs that you hold about yourself which could be limiting your confidence.
Now think of three beliefs you would rather have, beliefs that would empower you and
bring confidence. Cross out the limiting beliefs and write these empowering beliefs in their place.
What would you have to do for these new beliefs to come true?


5
Make yourself very comfortable, either sitting or lying down. Close your eves, take a few
deep breaths and relax.
Allow your imagination to flow freely. What would it be like to be perfectly confident?
What difference would it make to your life?
Let your mind drift for a few minutes, then open your eyes and write down everything
that comes to mind. Keep this list: you have it in your power to experience all this one day.
Remember, whatever your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve.

6
Commit yourself to behaving more confidently, as from now, even if it feels like an act. Do
what actors, musicians, politicians, sports stars and many others do the world over – pretend
you’re confident, even if you’re not. 
For instance, calm your breath, stand upright, look people in the eye and speak with a
clear, unwavering tone: you will immediately feel more confident.


7
From now on make this an unshakable rule: stop putting yourself down. Never say anything
about yourself, either silently or out loud, that you don’t sincerely want to be or come true.